Weekly Council

I've learned in many different classes throughout my education that it is really beneficial to have family councils, or meetings, each week.  There are many different kinds of councils:  husband and wife, whole family, mom and dad with one child, one parent with one child.  The combinations really are endless.

But, I also think that the benefits are endless.  Take time each week to meet with your spouse and discuss your relationship.  Maybe you had a disagreement that left a sour taste in your mouth.  It's easier to discuss it in hindsight.  Councils allow you to connect as a couple and strengthen your relationship.

This council also allows you to use your attunement communication skills that I talked about in my previous post.

It's not a time to bash on each other and make your spouse feel worse.  Use it as an opportunity to discuss things you might not otherwise discuss.  My husband and I have had weekly councils before and they have been great for us.  Plus, I'm a firm believer that all councils should end in a treat.

Enjoy something sweet for your belly and your relationship.

(Gottman has a schedule for a weekly council, but I'll do that in another post.)