Babysitting

Babysitting a niece, nephew, and sister

Let's talk about kids for a second.  We know that adding children to the family is awesome and yet, it totally changes a marriage/your relationship with your spouse.  I think for me, the hardest part about having a child was still trying to find time each week to go on a date with my spouse.  It can be challenging to find time in your busy schedules, while still trying to find someone to watch the kids.  If I do find a babysitter, I worry that I'm imposing or that my child is not being well behaved.  Anyways...

This date is all about allowing someone else a date night.  Find a couple, whether it's a friend, someone from church, or a neighbor and offer to babysit their child(ren) for the night while they go on a date.  Doing it as a couple is a date for yourself, but you're also allowing that other couple to have a night to themselves.  Win-win in my book.  I love it when my husband and I babysit together because he tumbles and wrestles with the kids.  They absolutely love it and kids just love him.  

Relationship reconnection:  As you are babysitting, find something that makes you a unique team.  Maybe he's great with the kids and you're a great cook.  Find your ying and yang is.  Maybe you're the person whose job it is to lay down the law and your spouse lets them jump on the bed.  Find whatever it is that balances you out as a couple.

Happy dating!