Building a House

When I say building a house, I don't actually mean doing that.  I'm talking about the house that you build in your relationship between your spouse.  When you get married, you and your spouse create your own house.  You have fence around your relationship to help protect it.  You also build a wall around your relationship when you are working at becoming a unit.  There is a window between the two of you that continues to be open when you have open communication and continue to work together.

Windows close, walls crumble, and fences open when you share yourself to another person and not your spouse.  In a technology world, it's can be very easy to connect on social media.  It's easy to vent to a co-worker.  It's easy to make a phone call or send a text to a former boyfriend or girlfriend, expressing frustrations.  Don't avoid conflict.  Talk things out.  Marriages that avoid conflict are especially prone to infidelity.

Make rules and guidelines for your relationship.  My husband and I have sat down and discussed protocol when it comes to Facebook.  We went through and deleted all of our former boyfriends/girlfriends.  We had rules when it came to my husband's study groups when he was in school.  There are guidelines we have established when it comes to working with co-workers of the opposite sex.

Keep your relationships safe and your walls and fences built around your special relationship.