Goals and Dreams

How important are your goals and dreams?  What about your spouse's?  Do you know what each other's are?  In this date, ask your spouse what their dreams and goals are.  Discuss yours as well.  Then, discuss what your goals and dreams are as a couple.  If your dreams and goals conflict, don't be discouraged.  Focus on what your spouse is saying and discuss it with openness.  This also gives you a chance to find the best of both worlds and include those things that are important to both of you.  Make some long term and short term goals together.

These goals can really be about anything.  When my husband and I were first married, we each drew a picture of our dream house.  Granted that was (and is still) a long ways off, it was fun to see what each other valued and wanted in a house.  This can be fun, serious, or a little of both.  Also, make sure you write these goals down.  That way if you want to come back and reevaluate them in a few years or months, you know what those goals are.  Keep them in a place where you can look at them and remember the goals you made.

Relationship reconnection:  Couples need to open up about what they consider the significance and purpose of their life together.  This will bring you closer together as a couple.  It also gives you as a couple a direction to go in.  The best part is that it's a direction that you choose.  Use these goals as a standards for the choices that you make in life.  This will deepen your commitment to you marriage and to one another.

Happy dating!